This Crazy Life

This is big in my house right now.  Her sister.  Her twin sister, is not even trying to support her recovery.  In fact, in my opinion, she’s jeopardizing it, even if not fully intentional.  She is trying to get better.  She’s talking about going back to school.  Her sister doesn’t want her at school.  Everyone will talk about you and make fun of you.  I understand she’s worked hard building her own individual life and becoming her own person.  I get that.  But she doesn’t own our town.  She doesn’t own our school.  Her sister can still have a life and have friends and some of the friends might overlap.  I don’t see what’s wrong with that.  But her sister is really struggling.  And her answer is to lash out and say mean and rude things to her sister, who is extremely vulnerable right now.  So, we’re really struggling.  I’m working on finding a therapist for her to see if someone can help her understand she can still be an individual, she can still have her own life.  And her sister can have a life too.  It’s not one or the other.  And we as parents aren’t taking sides.  We want what is best for ALL of our kids.  Damn parenting is hard.