This Crazy Life

I’m sure you’ve all heard the saying before.  Little kids, little problems.  Big kids, big problems.  If that isn’t true, I don’t know what is.  Aside from your little kid having some serious physical or mental health issues, as in an extremely severe eating disorder, most little kid problems really aren’t that big of deal.  You think they are at the time, and they definitely seem like they are.  But in reality, they aren’t.  In the last two weeks, my oldest daughter’s boyfriend’s half sister has attempted.  She’s been in the hospital recovering and possibly being moved to an inpatient facility.  In the process my oldest has been quite upset, unable to sleep and having panic attacks.  One day as I was in a meeting I told her to go to the counselor’s office and talk to the secretary.  She’s an amazing person and friend.  She started texting me that she thinks she needs to go home and we got her checked out.  Like I told her.  Being a human is hard.  My middle child has gone on a break from her boyfriend.  Who was really our family’s first boyfriend and it’s a hard place to navigate.  I will obviously respect her and whatever she decides, but losing someone who’s been a part of the family for over a year, is hard.  I told her I’ll be nice to boyfriends in the future but I’m not letting them in.  My youngest, and sick child, got fired from her job.  One day she couldn’t make it to work b/c of some severe OCD/ED stuff, and it was the last strike.  Other kids at her job have had their points wiped, but they didn’t for her.  No idea why, and she didn’t want to push it.  So of course, I have concerns about her continuing to get out of the house and losing all the progress we’ve made.  My oldest is now also making decisions about where she wants to live next year.  Commute from home, live in the dorms or get an apartment.  We are exploring the options of a single dorm in a suite.  So she could have suitemates, but her own space.  I think this may be the best option we have.  But then she has also learned that her relationship with her boyfriend is very one-sided and he does not treat her like she deserves to be treated.  Something we’ve been trying to tell her for some time, but she’s been blinded by “love”.  So that’s been a tough realization as well.  And like I said, this has been in the last 10 days.  All of it.  I’m sure the next 10 days will only be just as exciting!